Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Newly Engaged: Wedding Planning Basics

Newly Engaged? Do these things first! You'll thank me and yourself if you do these planning and memory keeping things early in your engagement.

1) Capture the Moment

As soon as the initial shock and awe of the proposal wears off and you can think clearly document your proposal.  Write down your feelings and emotions, snap a few photos, record yours and your fiances happiness (this could make for a great wedding day addition). If you wait to long to do these things (like I did) you won't remember the small details or the emotions you felt.  You'll find yourself editing your remembrance and not being able to be as candid about the joyous experience of getting engaged.

2) Talk Money & A Budget

After your engagement is announced sit down with anyone who will be involved in the planning of the wedding and/or paying for it.  Have an open and honest discussion about a realistic budget.  This is a great time to decide what elements are most important to you and where you'll be using most of your budget.  Maybe you already know your venue will be pricey or a killer designer dress is what's important.  Whatever you decide make sure everyone agrees and is willing to fork over the cash for the items you want and need. To each their own on how they pay for their wedding but it's my own personal advice to NOT go into debt together before you even say "I Do".  Taking out loans and opening new credit card accounts to be able to afford the 5 tier crystal adorned cake is a no no in my book.  The non material aspects of a wedding like your vows should be whats important, not having the most expensive party anyone's ever seen.

3) Organize your Ideas

As soon as you get a chance, start organizing your ideas into one location.  There are so many options when it comes to keeping track of the important details.  You can purchase a wedding planning book, I used This One:The Complete Wedding Planner & Organizer and really enjoyed it. It was really nice to have something to take to vendor meetings and keep everything in one place.  If you're crafty and creative you can purchase an empty binder and start your own planning binder; don't forget to add in my FREE printable's. I also highly recommend setting up a FREE account at  It is a great place to organize your guest list, you can even set up a free wedding website and send out E-Invites and reminders for things like your engagement party, bridal shower, etc.

4) Book Your Venue

As soon as you decide where you want to have your special day, reserve it and put down a deposit! Venues can sometimes be all booked up for a year or more out.  Another hard reality I faced was a venue I had fallen in love with almost doubled their fee's because they were a newer venue that was really starting to become popular.  If I had booked that venue when I first fell in love with it I wouldn't have had to deal with the disappointment of having to pass it up.

5) Enjoy It

Take all of my advice with a grain of salt, it is your day and you should do what makes you feel happy to celebrate your love.  But most importantly, enjoy every minute of it.  Enjoy your engagement because you will miss it.  I have tons of friends getting engaged and it makes me miss all of the Big Day dreaming and planning and the excitement of what's to come.  Don't get me wrong, I am beyond blessed and elated to be Mrs. Mitchell and I wouldn't do any of it over again because it was my perfect fairy tale but I do wish someone would have told me to appreciate the bliss of being engaged more.

Are you newly engaged? What was the first thing you and your fiance did after the proposal? Who did you tell first? Tell me all the details in the comments below!

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